Let me hear you laugh, and I’ll tell you who you are!
Dear reader, do you ever pay attention to the way people laugh?
Well, you should and here is why.
Sometimes even one word a person says can tell you a lot about that person’s character.
But nothing is as telling as laughter.
First off, the ability to laugh is very important. Psychologists say that a healthy sense of humor is an indispensible characteristic of a healthy personality. Have you noticed that some people don’t really laugh, but even when they do, their laughter is mute or sort of suppressed? This is a sign of a psychological problem.
But not only the ability to laugh is telling. The way a person laughs is also revealing. Allow me to quote one of my favorite author’s of all time, Fyodor Dostoyevsky:
A man can give himself away completely by his laughter, so that you suddenly learn all of his innermost secrets. Even really intelligent laughter is sometimes repulsive. Laughter calls first of all for sincerity, and where does one find sincerity? Laughter calls for lack of spite, but most people laugh spitefully. Sincere and unspiteful laughter is mirth. A man’s mirth is a feature that gives away the whole man, from head to toe.
Someone’s character may be a mystery for a long time, then the man bursts out laughing somehow quite sincerely, and his whole character suddenly opens up as if on the flat of your hand. Only a man of the loftiest and happiest development knows how to be mirthful infectiously, that is, irresistibly and goodheartedly. I’m not speaking of his mental development, but of his character, of the whole man.
I completely agree that laughter tells you the most important secret about a person – who the person is in general. It’s like a simple test, after conducting which you know whether you’re dealing with a good or a bad person. Well, life is not all black and white, but normally one of these qualities prevails in a person.
Laughter is even abused sometimes. Some people subconsciously know how revealing laughter is and use it to appear nice and good-hearted. Well, little do they know that they get found out very soon anyway.
Once, I was working for this company and we had a sales department. I don’t know why, but most of the guys working for that department shared this artificial way of laughing. Apparently, they used it on clients, and, apparently, it just stuck as a bad habit. I don’t think they realized it, but that theatrical laughter sounded really fake. But maybe it worked for them?
Speaking of me. I’ve noticed that my laughter has been changing throughout my life. Sometimes I don’t feel like laughing for quite a long time. So, I notice how and how often I laugh to diagnose a psychic problem I may have.
What about you? Do you believe that laughter tells a lot about a person?